The Best Apps for Finding a Threesome

Threesomes and group sex appear to be less taboo and more of a viable option to try out something new in the bedroom, yet trying to arrange a ménage à trois can still be difficult.

Indeed, a 2016 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that 82 percent of men and 31 percent of women surveyed were interested in at least one kind of threesome; but only 24 percent of men and 8 percent of the women had participated in a threesome of some sort.

Thankfully, there are a some apps that make organizing a threeway as easy as one-two-three.

Feeld

Feeld originally got considerable media attention when it first debuted as 3nder in 2016, but it soon rebranded after being sued by Tinder. The original vision of the app was to be specifically for threesomes, but since the public image overhaul it has opened up its scope and is more about providing a community for the “kinky, curious, and openminded.”

The app is designed to be a private space where both individuals and couples can be introduced to those with similar sexual interests. It uses Facebook to verify its users, while also giving users the opportunity to hide their Feeld profiles from friends on the social network for privacy reasons. Along with the typical single chats and matches, people can also start group chats — perfect for coordinating some multi-person shenanigans.

3Somer

Another app on the market that’s more explicitly marketed to those wanting some threeway fun is 3Somer. Calling itself the “Tinder for couples, singles and swingers,” the app functions like the typical dating apps, with a swipe-for-match interface. What’s interesting about the app is that profiles are set up in a manner like Facebook profiles. Users can post photos and status updates, giving possible suitors more of an idea of who they are.

However, it looks like one con to the app is that there aren’t tons of users. One reviewer writes in the App Store, “This has been a great app, it works well and is easy to use. When more people sign up I’m sure my matches will go up.”

NEWPL

“The basic idea is that it’s dating by fantasy,” says NEWPL founder Andriy Yaroshenko. “It’s an app for people in non-monogamous relationships or alternative relationships. These people are sex positive, open-minded. Often they need an instrument to find couples and singles who are also sex positive and open-minded.”

NEWPL works much like Feeld since it bases connections off sexual fantasies. After setting up a profile, users can mark which kinks they’re into. That includes things like roleplay, domination, and yes, threesomes as well. Yaroshenko is hoping to build a community of sex positive people, both couples and singles, to find others that are open to exploring their heart’s (and nether regions’) desires. People can also share stories of their sexual escapades, which are available on their profiles, so other users can see their past experiences and their thoughts on them. Currently, NEWPL is only in beta but will be fully launching sometime soon.

Tinder

It makes sense that a lot of these more niche apps would be modeled after Tinder, arguably the most popular dating app on the market. At the same time, good ol’ Tinder could also be used to find threesome opportunities.

There are some pretty good guides out there for couples trying to customize their profile to reel in a unicorn. Overall, it’s all about transparency: having clear photos of both members of the couple and being explicit about being interested in playtime with other people in the profile description. The same rules apply for singles looking for group play. By being upfront in the search for threesomes, all involved parties will hopefully be able to match.

Similar tactics go for other dating apps like Grindr and OkCupid, where people can write in that they’re interested in group fun or hooking up with other couples. These platforms are less specifically designed for finding threesomes and instead are just large networks where interested users can cast a wide net.

UnderCovers

Currently available only for Android devices, the UnderCovers app isn’t for finding a threesome. It’s for couples who want to start having open discussions about possibly having group sex along with a slew of other fantasies. Two partners indicate which fantasies and kinks they’re interested in exploring, and the app will reveal which ones both people would like to indulge in. Simply having a conversation involving threesome play can be awkward or embarrassing, so UnderCovers can help mitigate those feelings.

Craigslist

It might be old school, but Craigslist could also prove to be a useful resource for dabbling in some threeway play. Under the casual encounters category, there are typically posts from people who are looking to live out their group sex fantasies. And it really runs the gamut in terms of genders, so those looking for both exclusively homosexual and mixed gender set ups can likely find a titillating ad.

There’s often a location attached to these postings as well, so threesome seekers could likely even vet possible hook ups by geographical criteria. A local threesome may work out to be a repeated situation. Or one might purposely go with a threesome across the city so they don’t have to run into one of the participants at the local grocery store.